Are you
hanging with healthy friends?
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I am pretty sure, everyone has been a victim of fake friends
(often times or once in his lifetime). These are friends whom you actually see
a future of surreal friendship but you realized you are such an idiot of not
seeing the obvious signs that you were dancing with the Devil! These are
friends you call ‘Plastic’, or infamously known as ‘Tupperware’ or if friends
of cheap level we call them ‘Orocan’. I
will give you tips I learned from my past and recent disappointments with detecting,
‘unworthy friends’.
Here are the types of friends you should avoid and spend
least amount with:
9 - People Pleaser (updated as of
March 1, 2012)
That’s me also! Meeting a new person makes me a superb Ms.
Congeniality. I want to make sure I made the best impression ever. I trust
easily and way so transparent. I effortlessly make myself available and I open
myself too soon than usual. Which at the end - all the things I said (in good
faith) are all taken against me seriously and judgementally
8 – Kamikaze
These are you
so-called friends who are deliberately unconscious about other people’s
feelings. They are not aware of their own clutter and mistakes. They have no
regard with rules and regulations as long as they get through it. He literally
does not care about anything and anybody as long as he believes in his on
crooked point of view. These persons are overconfident in thinking themselves
as friend of everybody when in fact they have really no true friends at all. He
is a free-lancer friend; you can’t really rely in helping you out but trusts
everyone else would do him a favour.
7. Close Minded
These are friends who are negatively close-minded with
corrections, suggestions, new ideas and comments. They are deprived with proper
intellect and capacity to think the correct argument which what you points out.
They are often are unaware of having hearing problems, confusions and delusions.
6– Bossy Nosy
They are usually well-off but not necessarily rich. They
tend to often times treat you out and give you stuff. But beware, when she
needed a favour from you, she have major in history and are of good
mathematical skills, though she wouldn’t directly remind you of the good things
she gave you and nice stuff you enjoy from her; you tend you bear with her annoying
unreasonable snubbing, indirect slavery, and often times bad talk from
her. Hello! You are now, her official nanny!
You will notice that she now starts to ask you favour to reach for an object
that’s near her or ask you to fetch something along your way even it is too
hard for you to. This set up is nice if you too can count on her but nope, she
may tend to get bothering reaction if you ask her same favours she asks you.
5 – Ego-centric
These are control freak, only knows me, my, and I, irritatingly
inconsiderate, and self gratifying person. These are persons that are not
conscious if you needed quiet or fun time if you stress or celebrating for your
achievement. They always divert every moment in her life. And another red flag
you are friends with an egocentric is that your life is now a formula of ‘Your personal
life’ + ’ your family’ + ‘HER LIFE’ = ‘You’.
You now constantly know what happened to her life’s update. Conversation often
ends up with her as the last sentence.
4– Savings Drainer
She is either rich, trying to be rich or just plain
financially challenged person.
A friend from a well off family would generally enjoy classy
and expensive things as well as expensive pleasures. If you are not as rich as
your friend, you may end up spending more than what you earn and more than your
allowance. But if your well-to-do friend is generous enough to let you ride in
and pay for all your expenses, you may probably hit the jackpot! But remember,
this will not always be the case. Even she pays for your drinks all the time,
your taxi ride when you have to meet her and clothes you wear when you go out
are all not included in her regular treat.
Another savings drainer is a social climber (those ‘gimickera’ and ‘ambisosya’) friend who has passion for exclusive parties and
elegant things which she can’t afford more than she has. But regardless of
financial scarcities, they all find means in getting through the affluent crowd
(whether they sell their stuff, take multiple jobs or even risk in taking loans).
If you are friends with her, most likely you too will be tempted to do the
same. Their motto is “Live life to the fullest” or “Pamper yourself”, even you
can’t afford it.
Last savings drainer
is those you are always financially troubled person. You are enslaved with her
personal dilemma in finances and she must have borrowed from you. They often
ask for your help and seldom pay you on time or she never pays you at all. The more
you help her out, the more she became dependent on your generosity and concern.
You might realize one day, you were able to lend her much more than you
expected. It’s a good deed to help but make sure you will not be drowning to
her reliance on you. Because of her constant money difficulties, you also now
are experiencing personal financial mess. Remember, you can help yourself by
helping her to be independent and helping yourself first. That is why in airplane
safety measures, it is advised that all passengers with dependent individual with
them (babies, kids and sick persons) should wear their masks first before putting
the baby’s mask
3 – Good Citizen
Be careful of these friends who can never be trusted. They
are low self-esteemed gossipers. They are not the brave and good nation heroes
but they are those whose sole purpose to live, is be to be a whistle blower.
They thought they gain trust and confidence to their friends by squealing every
word you say. A good friend doesn’t need to be told that what you are sharing
is a secret, if she is wise enough, she should know. She is never aware and
concern whether by dropping what supposed to be a sensitive topic or comment,
may cause disagreement or misdemeanour. You can spot this type of friend if she
always have important stories and news from your common friend, and you always
are aware what your other friends tells and think about you because she report
to you all the time. She probably must have told them what you two are talking
about them too. So, don’t be misguided and tricked by her.
2 – Negavibes
Businessman dislikes these people because they often start a
fuss between the employees and management or worst, the misunderstanding will
reach to an uprising. In finding a buddy, it is always best to hang out with
persons who are lively happy and always see the goodness in life. You wouldn’t
want to start your day joyful and end your day with rant because you were
bombarded with problems, grievances and complaints to which you have no way and
no authority of solving it. Making friends with this person will eat your happy
heart out and dry it with torment of negativity.
1 – Back-biters
Opra Winfrey warns us from people who are backstabbers. If
your friend bad mouths another person, Opra said, she’ll probably had bad
mouthed you from other persons. So, it’s wise to never talk to these persons or
never be friends with them at all. Back biters are absolutely judgemental (mostly
negative judge arise from their mouth all the time), they are more like a back
biter who analyzes everything you say and find mistakes with what you say and
do, including your decisions. Their words are hurtful and the way they look at
you from behind is like a stubbing samurai.
So there you go; the types of friends you should avoid.
Friendship is like a marrying someone, you should find
someone you are compatible with. If you and your ex-friend whom you invested so
much time and trust did not click with each other, keep a keen eye to your next
expected future best friend. Check if they can do you good or just stressed you
out. It pays well if you hang around with which people you are truly safe with.
Have you spotted one or more of these people?
Have a nice friend hunting!
Author’s
words:
Negavibes – persons full of complaints
and grievances; persons who foresee things in negative result
Unworthy friends – they are ungrateful
and untrustworthy friends
